It wasnt until those days after I spent the night which was his idea. Then as the days went on less contact and he was even planning things to do on his own without my company. People should treat others as they want. Last week he suggested at last minute to meet that evening. I really wish we all can be more honest to each otherI hope your feeling better now . At a point, I had enough and I told him that it was best to call things a day and move on! As ghosting is becoming more pronounced nowadays, he might have thought that it was okay to do it since that might have happened to him too. Doing anything that goes against what you believe and defines you as a human shouldnt be treated as something disposable. I met this guy online a few months ago. The last time we hanged out I was at a very low point health-wise. Im probably going to get banned for saying this but fact is anyone who gets involved with any man mainly while knowing hes in any relationship being married or not is known as a homewrecker or well technically any whether aware r not but frm my understading this is only facts and look it up if u think Im lying I am just saying so think before you make the mistake again those r who ppl refer to as a homewrecker or even a slut to some is that what you want to be labeled as or are you going to have some respect for the other woman as well as yourself and not do that again Im just saying okay imagine how she must feel especially if he has kids with his wife u should not be any more than disgusted he did that to not just u but her too them okay think about her pain nobody wants an unfaithful partner and its hard to deal wwith when finding out our worst fear that we have one now how can u still want that sick twisted mind idiot really ur better than that & u need to realize what he did to her he will do to aanoter thats all im ssying im sorry if harsh not trying to downgrade u but Im just being honest face the facts put urself in her shoes shes the wife not you a side piece how could u even expect u to last with that loser hes married shes the one hes got something real with sides should not ever expect anything lasting or realluly i dont understsnd how r why 1 wuld even ever Get involved at all thats asking for drama bs and heartache discard all there Is with that but anyway now Im sounding negative towards u not trying to tho my apologies Ive said enough just try to see and understand my point Im sorry u expected more tho anyone who cheats cannot be trusted for its very likely hell b any different and not cheat with every partner hes supposed to be in a relationship last thing k dont be a loser and settle for one learn from this and become a respectful woman whose not going to put a label on herself anything like that now Im done take care hope this helps u to see the reality to it all. It was an overnight change, literally. He also wanted to know any guy that tried to contact me. I know he doesnt want a relationship with me anymore, but its hard for me to understand and to accept that he just stopped loving me all of the sudden? So 3 nights ago I went dancing and hit it off with the bartender in a small joint. clearly this man, this thing that someone must have raised in a jungle with no morals or respect for others, has some serious issues to be able to treat someone with such disrespect and in such a hurtful & careless way. (He lives a couple of hours away and works nights and weekends.) Its all made up. I feel cheated. I sensed nothing was wrong. Im so stupid for deleting my Instagram cas that way atlesst he could see me everyday and miss mee. And Im only his second girlfriend he ever had. What about us? 12) They think you're not compatible. Theres this guy, we are best of friends. He's Dating For Sport. I told him i knew he was never going to contact me again. I dont care what it makes me look like. he disappears I dissapear, in my context he is the one who nags.meanwhile I more enjoy my life without even think of him, because more I avoid to contact him, more I am busy, more I forget about him. I fell in love, he told me he was falling too. :-(. He was the one suggesting this could lead to something more while we were chatting, he even told me what he wanted to do for our second, even third date He talked about things we could do together after retiring (!) How long should I give him to reach out before I lose hope completely? He's not ready for a relationship. Men use to be men from what I remember about 15 years ago. No silly sexual references. I cant imagine if I were you. Of course, I fell in love with him too and completely head over heels. (a reply would prove hes selfish and wounded to me) or do I get on with my life, only to wake up each day thinking will he contact me? We didnt argue before the last contact, and I have $4,000.00 worth of (his) merchandise at my place. The city I dropped him So I was chatting with this guy on fb for a few weeks. Then one weekend he went away and the whole time he was calling and texting just to chat, nothing specific but it was nice to know he had me in mind. they dont consider consequences of their behavior. Thanks Interested men with continue to show interest. I like what you wrote there. But disappearing without an explanation when you click with someone is really hard. He barely looked me in the eyes while talking, kept looking me up and down inspecting everything. I do too but I havent met him yet. Now that I was so close, I almost want to chase it untill I get it. Hit it off, had a great time, immediately he asked for another date. Seems like maybe this ran its course. If he was the right guy for youwell he would be with you! Hey, I can tell youre so preoccupied with things, which is fine. i just thought it would be great experience to go out of my country and visit him. good times at a nice restaurant shes still talking quite a bit and im starting to notice having to manufacture interest in the conversation sometimes since i dont really get a turn to talk. I had no other way to get into my house. When he vanishes from your life completely, youll probably get an urge to text him. He asked for my number and I thought he was cute so Im like why not ? So We eventually started talking on the phone every night and even falling asleep on the phone ! Concentrating on other more important thi gs in life but not shutting .y self off from experiences.. Women owe men nothing. And Ive had a couple that ghosted altogether. You were physically, emotionally, and mentally attracted. Does anyone have insights? To this, he replied, I totally agree and do you think we just got off on the wrong foot? I answered, I dont know. 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Society, as a whole, has degenerated into a morass of non-judgmental, liberal acceptance of bad behavior and making excuses for those who engage in it. You have no idea. Or once you tell them you like them. When I got home I called and got his VM. Then Wed I got a Good Morning Bitmoji but then we didnt text during the day. Take a gap of 48-72 hours to make further communication try. yeah much better to enjoy life around people who energize you, than drain your energy around people who suck. Im just really angry he doesnt have the balls to talk to me and clarify things! Needy? So if you feel up to it, tell him so! I simply was devastated that someone I trusted with everything could be so cold and he would know by not saying anything that it would drive me nuts. Thank you for sharing! Well we saw each other and wow ! I don't know. When you want to text him what your needs are, it can sound something like this: Hey, I hope youre doing okay since I havent heard back from you. This behavior has probably always been a mystery to you but youre about to find out all of the hidden secrets about it. I didnt know that message because it happened that I deleted my account on whatsapp so when we got the chance to text each other thru bbm, thats the only time i read that message after 8 days. Its still fresh and I feel sore and confused. I dont ever over-do texting or calling, simply because Im busy and dont really have time for technology- its just my (type B/ laid back) personality. If you feel the need to check up on him, go look at funny YouTube videos or call a friend. He still made plans with me. wanted a peaceful christmas is like a girl saying she lost her phone all weekend unless youre in a hole in the ground with no internet there are always ways to get in touch. We got involved quickly. We lived long distance but we would tango and oovoo each other every now and then. In the next few days my ex called him, apologized and kind of said he wont be interfering anymore so we reconected. I choose to keep my dignity and not reach out but it is so hard not knowing why he stopped contacting me. Are you willing to give him one more chance or has he wasted all of them? Smh he is playin games and @ freakin35 yrs old grow up man!! Well little did I know the night before we were suppose to meet was the last night I would talk to him. Theyre cowards. We had sex multiple times. unfortunately theres a lot of men out there who cant man up. So I told him its best if you call me then. Its one thing if a guy breaks it off with a girl and tells her she is too insecure, clingy, dramatic, etc. A friend of mine had a guy ghost on her because hes heard (wrongly) she had cheated on him! She could not understand this, I mean she seemed supportive but our relationship could not go on, she kept making plans and asking me to do this and that, when all I had in my head was that I needed all my focus and attention on my health. 1: A worthy man who is really into you and excited to carry on seeing you and feels you have invested in him, will not in any way jeopordise this by ghosting. Quite judgmental and making many assumptions. Random I know but would appreciate a viewpoint! Just be yourself. He is a considerate person and hes talked about breaking up with girls. Im soooo sorry. An Aries guy loves it when a woman compliments him, so you can attract him to you by showering him with praise. Around 7 months ago I started talking to an old friend Ive have know since I was 12 (Im 18 now) we were great friends and talked a lot almost every day for a few years. When im not feeling it i will communicate it, but not all men do that. I dont know why he stopped but I do know this. The conversation died quickly but I was just happy he was talking to me again and through out the 5th month I would text him maybe once every few day to talk and he usually would reply but with hours of time in between and not replying back after so long. Although I insisted our conversations were casual and playful and nothing serious cas we had talked about things over the phone . I know I made the mistake of not having an exclusive talk after we slept together (and no, it wasnt until a couple of weeks and a few dates in), but I am not a serial dater and I dont sleep around. Like me, he was anxious if he didnt hear from me for a day, our lives didnt feel complete without that contact, and our meeting went so well after a year of talking, I was really in love with him, and he was too (I think!he was the one who fell first) It is now 2 months since he asked for a break and not a word, its like he has deleted me from his life. But he thinks Im a cool girl and wants to be friends. Definitely feeling like an idiot. Although I insisted our conversations were casual and playful and nothing serious cas we had talked about things over the phone . I dont know what it was but I guess Ill know later. So we recently made plans to get together a couple of months ago, just a date to see how it goes, Made the date, figured out what we were going to do, and I had to hang up. Please stay out of my life. From listening to/reading about the experiences of guys who have ghosted, I agree with Jools in that the reasons for disappearing are not always strictly limited to them losing interest. We kept finishing each others sentences and thought along the same line. we finnaly only see each other 3 times in 10 months. Think Aloud is a destination where youll find stories about every step you, as a woman, take. I know i was happy with what he sent me. Do you rant to him about his immature behavior or do you simply give him some more time and wait for him to come back to you? I feel that some of this men have not just commitment issues but this behavior is not with dating with them it is with other issues in there life. What we shared in time spent was worth more to me than materialistic things. Were talking for a really long time through text and then we met up and had a really good time I thought. I tried to call him back because this was really our first disagreement, no cuss words back and forth or belittling but it was the first time he had hung up on me. You begin by sending him a casual text, followed by a direct message on Facebook just to be sure. Hes very busy traveling for work but has checked in every few days saying he misses me. We even talked for the first time about those times we hooked at parties. Rather than beat myself up, I just tell myself, who may be right for me at one time in my life, may not be at another time. I have adored him since we met 15 momts ago. Why kiss me passionately goodbye. If his mother really is sick, then that may actually be his priority right now. Im being driven crazy and if anyone can help me it would be great. It has been almost four months now since. But the truth is that I cant trust a guy who can walk in and out over any silly things. Ive enjoyed being with you and Id like to see you again, but I havent been getting the same vibe since I last saw you. I had realised she was playing with my emotions so instead of reacting to her I chose to drop her like a hot potatoe to protect my own heart and feelings. The only thing that bothered me was that he never really put effort into showing me that he loved me. We did a few times but it was a big hassle for him because he is a light sleeper. Saying kindly delete my number, hes started talking to his ex, then changed the reason to he has enough friends. You want to be with a guy who cant believe his luck that a girl like you would choose him! We hung out, had a great time again, and had a killer makeout session. 1. Dont beat yourself up over what you did wrong. I dont want to go over the top and question him as to why he has become a little bit quieter, but at the same point I need to understand why? But whether or not its worth it, only time will tell. He took pictures with me there, selfies and looked so happy and we held hands and walked a lot anyways we got back to Get back out there and date more. and sometimes the more you learn the more you like her, but sometimes the more you learn the less you like her. It will cost you both friendships and relationships. Woth other people, friends, etc too. 1. Yes, it is true. I did send a final email and told him I simply cannot understand why he did not tell me that he did not want to see me anymore and that I would never do something so inconsiderate to someone that I told I loved and cared for.
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